Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

[antlers]

I adjusted some wording, but this is more for me to learn as well, so don't necessarily change what you have, based on what I put. You know your stbxw, family, and yourself..

"I can see and understand how you would think I never loved you. I hate it that you feel that way. Making assumptions can lead to a lot of misunderstandings and a lot of difficulties. I am sorry that I did that at times. I will do my best to not make assumptions about you. I know in my heart that I do love you and my family."

However, I do like what you have written, it is compassionate, validates how she feels or felt, doesn't offer to 'fix' anything of hers, nor blames yourself for everything that is wrong.

I feel communicating in this way may take some of her anger out by simply agreeing with what she is saying.

On the issue with your Niece, I still believe that you need to address that as well with her, but feel that could be separate, if you reply to your stbxw with what your doing with niece to 'fix' it, it could just be seen as an excuse, or you defending yourself, etc.

Again, take my advice with a grain of salt, as I am clearly not good at this, given the sitch I am in right now...

Thanks man. Bridge liked how you changed some words around. I do too. I also agree with what you said about keeping it separate.