lr you are right. It's been tough but there are major strides happening this past week so no more feeling sorry for myself!!!!
THat was also lack of sleep and a dose of PMS talking
H did come in later to chit chat we were organizing papers for tax time. One of my 180s since early on was to be more organized and financially capable - I was proud that I had receipts, tax info, all that organized. I took an accounting class this winter and I got a small bookkeeping job so I'm really doing better in that regard. It's a relief for H to not feel alone when dealing with finances, so we were laughing and getting along.
This morning he was really trying to stay calm. He said as much, joking about "I think it would be better if I go into a rampage." So glad to be able to poke some fun back at him, after last week and him poking fun at me through the cat!~ and I noticed S did so much better at not having a tempertantrum when mom and dad were not having them
This work of the past week of setting and keeping my boundaries is really changing the dynamic between us. I am hopeful - and this time not just in the "hope he takes me back" way, but the "hope we can have a healthy happy relationship" way. I'm more sure than ever I don't want him to come back until we can straighten these boundaries out.
Yes I will mention it's the anger, not the competence I worry about in his parenting - good advice. DOn't want to push the insecurity button. And I took my space as "me time" and was still open when he came in and talked with me. I just wanted to not pursue, and that felt good.
