Thank you everyone. I will not pick up the phone if he calls today. I hope what I said to him today, doesn't backfire on me.
I've realized why NC has been so hard for me. I'm so afraid that he will D me and afraid to be alone. Therefore, I was letting him control me and walk all over me. I'm still very afraid of that happening, but I know it's what I have to do no matter the outcome. In the past when I have gone dark, it's when he runs more towards D.
I'm hoping the IC can help me. And if he decides he wants to work on the M in the future, I will recommend we start seeing the same FT.
Most definitely, I HOPE he can see the logic in you both sharing information on your needs with teh SAME person so they can coordinate... I have seen it done with different therapists, but its terribly isolated that way...
I think you can see how much more impact it has if its the same FT...
