I don't have a problem with it if the woman is a MUTUAL friend of the marriage's, if her husband is also friended by each of you, AND your marriage is currently healthy with no infidelity threats looming.
I always go for underdogs- but no more. My family had to pay for the wedding of her dreams b/c her family could not assist at all.
I was absolutley smitten by her...just let the distance creep in.
I agree about upbringing and family dynamics- people always said I should have looked closely at MIL and who she was. W was very independent and kept her emotions to herself- very sad-
I left her a message that her friendship is important to me and that although I do not approve of what she's doing (the A) I do want her to be happy; and that I'm sorry that I am not a part of that happiness-
"Blcccch!"
Puppy
Yup. Ditto.
Instead: W, peace out. W, smell ya later. W, later days. W, it was real.
Extra harsh to get point across.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
I was reading what you posted about addictive scripts and romantic love-
Yes, we can remember those days, and it's a far-cry away from where things eventually go after 2-6-12 yrs of being together.
I read some of W's quotes to people about making changes for the better, and "time to start living again."
Living does not equate to bars and clubs, as far as I'm concerned. I can see the irrational behavior- making all the changes I had suggested about her over working herself, establishing boundaries w/ her clients, taking days off, etc etc...I find it ironic that she makes those changes now, rather than a year ago or months ago...her reply a few days ago was well, "that's typically how things go."
I'm very removed from W this week- my last interaction was when she gave me her back -the anger and resentment for her having to take her dogs back, and reminding her that her R was an A.
Perhaps sheer hatred for me, perhaps just avoiding looking w/in and realizing guilt and shame.
Very sick- very much the attitude and behavior of an addict- it's always someone elses fault.
I've been doing lots of reading and I have a list of other books to get this weekend. I am excited to be able to be proud of my committment and ability to respect my M to the very end- and also give myself many months of being completely single to figure out myself again.
This will be my greatest journey- knowing that yes, I will have had significan loss, I will be able to choose my frineds again- by removing a select few whom have disrespected my M as W did; and regain my emotional independence.
