My H does not want to see C with me, he made that clear. He said he wanted IC to help him deal with his anger. He believes his anger is stopping him from seeing any of the good times in our M and affecting his ability to make a decision. Here is the IC website: http://www.wecanhelpout.com/seminars.htm he will be seeing Kayleen Fuller.
I looked her up :
Kayleen Fuller, Ph.D.
Kayleen Fuller has a doctorate degree in clinical psychology. She works with families, individuals, and couples in therapy. Dr. Fuller believes in problem solving and practical solutions to manage mental health issues; integrating biofeedback, cognitive therapy, and other modalities into the therapy sessions. She works with other physicians and therapists at Comprehensive Psychological Services to make certain all of our clients have appropriate evaluations and diagnoses. She provides expert psychological and neuropsychological evaluations. She has experience working with persons who have learning disabilities, attention disorders, and other problems that effect school performance. She works with the family and the educational environment to find the solutions that ensure academic success. She also has worked extensively with persons who have substance abuse issues, mood disorders, psychosis, and anxiety problems. She believes that there is always hope and positive solutions for any problem she encounters in her work. She loves working with people to help them find the best answers.
She's not a family therapist, she's an individual therapist... its a different discipline...
THIS is a sample write up for a family therapist : ---------------------------- Mark Laing, B.A. Honours Psychology Counselling Intern, Group Facilitator Specializing:Individual & Marital Therapy/Counselling I believe that therapy is not something you do to someone rather something you do with someone. Any one person will encounter times in their life when they feel stuck or trapped. Friends can offer some help but often the friendship itself disallows you from receiving the appropriate help, challenge and insight needed to make the appropriate changes or adjustments.
My work centers on marriages in crisis, the effects of affairs, the damage of pornography addictions, the hopelessness of mood disorders (depression, anxiety etc,), the frustration of inappropriate anger and the paralysis caused by low self-acceptance. Equipped with an honors degree in clinical psychology and certified as a pastoral counselor, I am able to help my clients from not only a clinical perspective but also a spiritual one as well.
Involvement with our Mood Disorder Program, author of a manual on marriage and currently writing a book on marriage are just some of the extracurricular activities I am involved with. Married with five children I also have the experiential understanding that furthers my ability to help you or your marriage get back on track.
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I understnad he doenst want to meet a FT with you in the room.
THe IDEA is to get the SAME FT and you both meet them on an individual basis... they work like a referee... comparing notes from the info they get from both of you, and they try to smooth things over and offer the spouses perspectives objectively to help your spouse see your position, empathize, and cooperate.
Its a very different approach than Individual therapy.
THis woman may be of some help to him, but it does not look like he has madea good choice.. He seems to think he as an individual has anger issues... His ANGER is PART of his marriage and his AFFAIR...
He's diagnosing his own problem and treating it with the wrong type of therapy in my opinion.. it may help, but a FT I think would hlep you both a lot mroe...
MOST FT do NOT book appointments with couples TOGETHER, they book the appointmetns separately, but getting BOTH inputs from BOTH spouses is ESSENTIAL to getting a marriage back on track...
Hopefully this therapist can at least identify the source of his probelms and reccomend good solutions OR a more suitable therapist.
