I gotta say that I did much of what Drew mentioned (except the dont file for divorce) and my wife was drawn back and asked for another chance. And I did not do it with the intention of winning my wife back, but to maintain my dignity and have some boundaries. I think a combination of not being a doormat, tough love and DBing is a good thing.
Kevin - I think you are doing great. You are still on friendly terms with your wife. It is much easier to be friends than enemies. I do get a sense that you have reached a point where you have great clarity and are saying enough.
And even though there is this saying that divorce is bad for kids, that is not always the case.
