But then I re-framed it in my mind. Because he was NOT willing to make any efforts to change, it was true. Our marriage could not be restored since I was the only one trying. So then I was able to sign it...
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Yeah.. I had to do something similar.. while StBXH was 'willing', being able to do the deed and change to the level that provided safety & trust in an intimate relationship was not something he seemed to manage on a consistant basis
As a teacher I guess I fundementally believed that most people, with the exceptions of damage mentally & physically & even then there are amazing feats, when properly motivated are capable of most anything. Him seeming to not be capapble.. really rocked my world and saddened me.
So, as you I reframed.. we tried as best we could given the circumstances.. for one reason or another, willingness or ability.. it was best to part ways to allow growth & recovery for both.
Peace Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
