FM, do you mean the language he uses to show love or the language he needs to feel loved?

because lately I have been confused about the love language--do we show our love to others in the way we wish to receive it? Meaning WH has shown me love through acts of service and affection. So is this how he wants to be shown love?

Because words of affirmation and affection are huge for him.
So if he does an act of service, is it to receive words of affirmation? Or does he want me to give act of service to show my love? KWIM?

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004