Ya, the cheque thing confuses me... its a BLATANT excuse to violate no contact... he KNOWS you are having a hard time avoidign him and he's just using that.. its quite sick actually... sorry to say...
If someoen tells you to leave them alone, LEAVE them ALONE!
You have made it clear you didn't want to hear from him, but he KNOWS you will pickup, so he concocts some pathetic excuse, and calls anyhow... he's COMPELLED...
YOU are getting addicted to unhealthy contact with him.
You are not helping your case at all when you engage in unhealthy contact.
Here's your unhealthy cycle in a nutshell :
1. You want to save your marriage 2. He calls you 3. You pick up 4. You two fight 5. HE feels justified in cheating and exploring divorce
Back to step 1 again.. it will NEVER END
You need to BREAK that CYCLE by NOT picking UP.
Its an addiction for you as much as it is for him..get OUT of that unhealthy dynamic.. cutting him OUT is a much healthier dynamic.. but you keep falling into the unhealthy OLD one again.. its self control.. or if you CAN'T control yourself, turn your phone over to someone else...
You aren't showing anymore resolve than he is when you allow this addiction to control you.. PLEASE turn the phone OFF or give it to someone else.
