I also like Gypsy's sentence of "you and the kids are everything to me."
I like it, but not necessarily for where you and stbxw are right now.
I feel that puts to much pressure on your stbxw to be your 'everything' when you are in the process of D. I like your original txt on it, as it still tells how you feel about her, without putting any requirement or pressure on her to change the way she feels, or validate how you feel, etc.
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."