I hope the one week truce does good for you two. You are a faithful and committed husband and that is honorable, but you deserve happiness too. Your ticket is only good for one short trip on this big rock. I hope it doesn't come down to you having to get a restraining order to remove the kids and you are left to raise them by yourself. I read where you have seen an attorney though - do you have to wait on her to initiate the divorce?
I've seen 3 attorneys and I have been told that wife is so unstable at this point that if I initiated the divorce now we would have to get a restraining order. Knowing what I know about wife, this might push her right over the edge into losing her job, running off with some new dude and disappearing, or otherwise absconding completely.
I am walking a very fine line, keeping enough pressure on this week to try and compel her to get back into the home/family mentality, careful not to pressure her too far into going completely off the deep end.
Wife is in management and has a good career, but she has made some poor decisions in the past year or so, and this is beginning to flounder a bit. As I mentioned before, she has the capacity to be a good and competent mother, and I am going to need to pull out the stops to see that she gets back into that space, so I don't have to do all this myself.
I know I can do it myself, but I definitely don't want to do it all by myself if I can help it. My kids need their mom back.
In my own personal situation, the infidelity is not the biggest concern. I need to lead her toward basic functional parenting again.
M:40 W:40 2 teenagers ILYBNILWY: 09 January 2010 soon to be walking away my situation
