Getting Ready For Divorce

[crushed_v95]

Yesterday, wife and I had a 30 minute phone call. I was assertive while she ranted and raged in her little cage. At one point she asked: "do you really think you're smarter than me?" to which I answered "it's 'smarter than I', and yes, I know I'm more intelligent". Other than this I was not mean spirited and simply validated.

I called D15 at the usual time and asked if she was ready to go. I always pick her up after school. "No," she said, "mom is coming to get me".

Hmmmm. Veddy interesting. I called a half hour later when neither had shown up. "No, she's just running late," said daughter, "she'll be here".

Mom and daughter showed up on time. Very minimal interaction between me and wife, however... wife did the dishes (!) and made dinner for the kids (!!) then was home all night, sitting in her slippers in our living room (holy [censored]!).

No bar, no casino, no "going out with grandma" to get drunk or waste money. Just quiet family time.

This does not mean anything has changed in the long run. I know that. She's probably just panicked with the thought that I might actually be serious about divorcing her and trying to ease my mind... but still, it's a helluvalot of progress and made me feel really good about the future.

Wife disappeared at 5 am again to go to "the gym", and I know that's sort of a code for seeing somebody, but I'm relieved and guardedly hopeful that she's pondering the consequences of any more looney behavior.

Thanks to Michelle and Dr. Glover for the tips on staying strong. We'll see if this is a fluke or a trend, and how long it can be pushed.