How do I expose the affair

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Thank you for the bday wishes

My H does not want to see C with me, he made that clear. He said he wanted IC to help him deal with his anger. He believes his anger is stopping him from seeing any of the good times in our M and affecting his ability to make a decision. Here is the IC website:
http://www.wecanhelpout.com/seminars.htm he will be seeing Kayleen Fuller.

I will talk to my friend again, and ask her not to shut him out. I’ll do it today because she may be more willing since it’s my bday (-:

H called first thing this morning twice and I didn’t answer. Then he texted “U need to call me”. I didn’t respond, so he called again, this time I answered. He asked why I wouldn’t answer and I told him that I didn’t want any drama on my bday. He got defensive and said he was calling to tell me something about a family issue and then hung up on me. I called back and he didn’t answer, finally on the 3rd try he answered and said that I had told him I didn’t care so he didn’t feel like telling me. I said I didn’t say that and asked him what was wrong with the family. This issue is major, and involves his sister. I listened and said how sorry I was for her. Then he told me happy bday and asked me what was wrong. I asked if he really wanted to hear it and he said yes. So I told him that our M won’t work as long as he doesn’t believe it will and that he doesn’t care enough about me and the kids to stop his relationship with OW. I told him that this relationship was hurting me and the kids and him. He got defensive and wanted to know how it was hurting the kids. I told him it was affecting his ability to make good decisions. He didn’t agree. I told him that as long as he was seeing her and talking to her it won’t work. He said he wasn’t seeing her, and I said that I knew they were talking a lot. He got mad that I was still checking his phone records. After that, it went back to the talk about his sister, and finally I said I had to go.

I’m so afraid of what he will do next. I think he was holding back on the phone simply because it is my bday. I know I need to face my fear, and not worry that he will run to his L and file. I’ve said what I needed to say, and now I don’t feel like I need to say anymore to him. I will continue my NC as much as I can.