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[courageous wife]

HB-I have been reading your posts to others and have found you to be very insightful! I am not sure how much has actually sunken in for me. I am trying read everything I can! I do believe that my H is in full MLC, I haven't looked at the stages to see where he might be and there is OW involved. Got D papers in the mail last week



I had a session with a DB coach yesterday...actually, it is my 3rd one. She advised me to slowly break the no contact that I have been doing. In our talks, she feels that H is feeling like he is not needed by us. She wants me to try and get him more involved with the kids.

This is what I wrote on my thread-

She basically stands by what she has been saying that my H does not feel needed. She also said that I needed to ask H if he intended, when he filed for D, that the kids and I would have to move from our home and sell it because that IS what would have to happen as we would not be able to afford the payment. She also felt that he did seem undecided (but may have taken the chicken way out) about the D after I asked him about talking with the kids. She said, that since we have basically been dark/nc since he left and really kinda before he left that maybe that is going down a cheeseless tunnel. She asked me if there were some family events coming up that H could be included in.

I know you are probably not familiar with my sitch. It is in the Newcomers forum.

I am just not sure what to do and hope you will have some insight for me.