OK, my question NOW is... why aren't the two of you seeing a family therapist?
Individual counsellors are NOT trained in the skills and knowledge you need to get your marriage back on track.
I guess I would have to see the IC's website to say more, but generally IC's have a very different focus from a FT... with FT's primary goal of repairing a fractured marriage.
Maybe I don't have the full scoop here on this person or your plans or theirs, it just doesn't sound like its the best fit for you from what I have read so far.
