When my H went he was 'very happy' and he and OW were going to have a wonderful life together.
Now I see a sad, grey and drawn man who has dug a huge hole through his spending and input from OW. He barely functions. His business is in severe trouble because of his spending and inability to function. His memory has gone plus his planning ability.
His depression is very evident now. Dull lifeless eyes, no motivation,never smiles he is past despair now. I get a feeling from him of being defeated and confused by his inability to find happiness.
One positive is that he is now starting to talk about his childhood experiences that forced onto his rollercoaster ride.
I am grateful that I know he is in turmoil because it helps me understand that no one would make an informed choice to be where he is. He now has to make that choice about dealing effectively with his unhappiness.
