I woke up with a bad cold though...WH has already told me that I should rest a lot today and he will go to the store for me if I need something! He also has already found something to fix/clean!
So I am just chillin like I planned but will soon make breakfast and then get going...ughh I haven't been sick in over a year!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I have been busy cleaning but need to rest...this cold is kind of a doozy! Well I mentioned aloud that I needed to do stuff like take the newspapers to the recylcing, go through S' clothes, vacuum....and then I notice he has taken the newspapers for me!
Also he is picking up a couple of things I need at Costco...so 3 acts of service today!
Now I will rest a little and then vacuum and work out. A couple of days ago I watched Julie and Julia while exercising but today it is "Paper Heart." I'll be looking good before he leaves but I am not going to cook dinner tonight- don't feel good! I will tomorrow.
Oh yeah and I just mentioned how his sister will be watching S tomorrow and he said "When?" and I told him during the day for my eye appointment. He said okay, just clarifying about the time. I think he thought maybe I asked her to watch him tomorrow night and he is over here tomorrow night, so was I planning on staying out later than usual? Just my guess...
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Sorry if I have already brought this up, but have you read Why Men Love Bitches? Dumb title but good, simple book on how to put men into pursuit mode. Careful of the cooking according to that book. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure he loves it, but WMLB would put that in the "being the mommy" category (and you've already got that going on because you *are* a mommy). You want to be firmly in the other category until he is really preoccupied what the many "acts of service" that he could perform for you .
PS: my H seduced me with his salsa about 10 million years ago...
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Flowmom, I will see if I can read that book online or find an e-book! How funny b/c I have read recommendations for men that they should read No More Mr. Nice Guy....
who knew the way to keep our spouses committed is to treat them like crap? (j/k lol)
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I'm going to write a book How To Hang Your Husband by the Toenails
Last edited by flowmom; 02/25/1012:24 AM.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Holy crap...I bought the ebook version of Why Men Marry Bitches (figured it was similar to Why Men Love Bitches b/c the latter wasn't available) and I see my old self all over it!!The me that WH fell for! I am far from being a bitch...this is actually reminding women to stay independent, don't "give it up" too easily, be yourself,be a little unpredictable, and unavailable. It does say to "give a little, then pull back," repeat.
Men want to feel like we chose them (as do women) and we didn't just snatch them up because they asked us...it actually makes a man feel better about himself if he has to earn his way into our life- our "full" life- because it means we are interesting and he is really special for us to make time for them!
I am half way through and eager to read more, then reflect and get busy. THANK YOU FLOWMOM-My confidence is growing again!
by the way, it makes me wonder what is in the No More Mr. Nce Guy book and others that Gucci recommends...
Last edited by newmama; 02/25/1003:35 AM.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Holy crap...I bought the ebook version of Why Men Marry Bitches (figured it was similar to Why Men Love Bitches b/c the latter wasn't available) and I see my old self all over it!!The me that WH fell for! I am far from being a bitch...this is actually reminding women to stay independent, don't "give it up" too easily, be yourself,be a little unpredictable, and unavailable. It does say to "give a little, then pull back," repeat.
Men want to feel like we chose them (as do women) and we didn't just snatch them up because they asked us...it actually makes a man feel better about himself if he has to earn his way into our life- our "full" life- because it means we are interesting and he is really special for us to make time for them!
I am half way through and eager to read more, then reflect and get busy. THANK YOU FLOWMOM-My confidence is growing again!
I'm really glad that it's giving you some insights newmama...I like your synosis. You're still the same woman that your H fell in love with! But the sitch requires some serious role-tweaking to remind him!
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
newmama, I bought that book too. I've only read a couple of chapters and than got busy with school work, and totally forgot about it. It's been a few weeks since I read it, but I remember feeling better when I was reading it. I think I will go back to it right now.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
Avermont, I confess I thought of you when I was reading it,haha! But I mean that as a compliment. If you ever read it, I hope it gives you validation that your X clearly lost a few marbles and there is nothing you need to change about your sexy, independent self!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
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