H in MLC but still living in the home for now..

[petals]

well he intiated a R discussion tonight. i tried to be aloof but at the same time, tell him that i still believe there is a connection worth working on given the years invested and everything we both mean to each other. I pinned him down because i am tired of his wishy washy stuff. I explained that i have done a lot of reading about the situation and told him the results of the MLC are usually the one that leaves ends up more lonely etc. He said he still feels in his "mind" that he is diong us both injustice to be in an unhealtly relationship and believes we need to live separately and see what happens. He thinks it will feel better after a few days and we have both had time to think about things-he really invisions me with someone who will treat me the way i deserve to be treated. He does not see the positives that i see. So, I told him that he needs to do what he needs to do even if that means leaving and seeing how he feels. We have agreed to not file for D yet and we will take our time doing so (if at all) I bsically told him that i dont wants papers sent to me right away and i may not be ready anytime soon to sign anything- (hoping things will change over time)He will be leaving in the next week and 1/2 when he finds a place. He asked if i wanted to be home when he left- i told him yes- perhaps to give me some closure and not to come home to emptiness- maybe im wrong on that???

He did mention a couple of times that if i still want communication with him, he wants it and he mentioned dating- not right away (but he did mention it-thats a positive)I told him that I no longer hav expectations so dating i might be ok with( because of course he had to throw in that he may ask me out on a date- but no committment to anything Relationship wise. So as of tonight thats where it stands. He will still support me financially when needed (so he says). I have a career0 but am not as financially stable now that i will be paying all the household bills, mortgage, my car pmt etc.