No I am not.. that's the most ridiculous thing I ever heard!
Her son is cheating on his wife and the only thing she can do is worry about HIS feelings? WTF?
Anyhow, that was a great handling of avoiding him...
I am not sure why he's asking you for cheques, but if you can avoid having to do that then do away with that too.. he's just using it as an excuse to contact you... ALL of these things are excuses to pursue you...
I think you can see the pursuit now yes?
It's GOOD that he's pursuing you... YOU need to keep refusing him... EVENTUALLY he will do the math and do the right think I honestly think he will...
He should get the idea by now I think that you don't want to be near him until he has dropped the dead weight OW...
But KEEP sending that message out through your third parties... MIL, his friends, yoru friends, anyone who is marriage friendly can speak up for you and tell him to drop the OW and man-up...
They just have to make it clear that you are shutting him out until he acts his age... sometimes waywards take NC to mean you don't want them anymore... so self absorbed I know...
I think he liklye knows he has to drop the OW, he's just holding out for some sort of miracle that will never appear.
Great job on avoiding him... If you can avoid talkign to him, do it... keep telling him you don't want him to come over, you don't want him to call, he's NOT going to DO it, but he will hear "drop the OW or I am out of here..." That honeslty IS what he hears when you tell him you don't want him to come by...
I think you have done enough work to make sure he understands the subtext of your shutdown.
If you can get third parties to reinforce your position so he doesn't give up on you, that's great too... But I think he does get it... Despite this he's gonna try to keep contacting you.. and he will use ANY excuse he CAN...
