mb, good job handling the situation of H showing up at your house... and methinks he is a little concerned about what you are thinking and might be doing...which means he doesn;t want to lose you... so you can feel confident to be even more "assertive!"
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004