You are still expecting change from her and it's not going to happen on your timetable whether you decide to D or not. That's the biggest thing you still haven't learned. You still seem to be waiting for a huge change in her and it's not going to happen.
I am not sure what you got out of my post that suggests I am now expecting a change from my W. I am not expecting a change from her which is the primary reason that is leading me in the direction I am heading.
I am giving Drew's suggestion a lot of thought at the moment. But I am not totally sure I am willing to give it even that much more time. But his points are valid so I am considering them.
Thank you everyone else that posted as well. I am in a much better place now. Who would have known like CG said that losing my job could lead me to some insights about things all the way around and some decisions that need to be made and acted upon.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
