I think I'd rather be dead than this- WAW

[GH31]

Also, In the infidelity chapter of the DR it talks about apologizing after you overreact when discussing the affairwith your spouse. Should I call or text her and apologize for acting the way I did?

No.

You're already separated.

Michele's advice here applies when you're living together and doing everything else as man and wife.

Simply be consistently centred, unflappable and composed on all subsequent interactions with her.

I see where my questioning W last Sunday about whether or not she had slept with OM yet WAS NOT a solution oriented action. She woke me up by texting me (and like I said before - mornings are the worst for me) and when I talked to her and heard suspicious things in our conversation I attacked rather than saying to myself, "will my actions help us or push her father away." The texts I sent her after our conversation really were not solution based!

I feel like I really screwed up by doing this.

It's OK Quart9.

We have all screwed up from time to time on this DBing odyssey.

Every last one of us.

Get back in the saddle as quick as you can and be cool and unflappable on all subsequent interactions with her.

I also feel like I really didn't give the LRT enough time to work.

You're very new to this Quart9. The LRT has plenty more time to work - you've scarcely begun with it.

The DR says most affairs don't last longer than 6 months.

That is, 6 months from the time they are exposed to the light of day.

I would strongly recommend reviewing Dr. Willard Harley's material for the dynamics of affairs and their lifecycles.

Am I jumping too fast to go and petition for the D?

No.

Not if you want to maximise your chances of getting spousal support.

She lied to you, manipulated you, cheated and tricked you into moving out of your home so that she could pursue an affair with a married man without you there to get in her way.

Remember?

Stay with your current plan - the petition can always be withdrawn later if need be. Protect yourself. Go back and look at Gnosis' rules. He is absolutely correct.

Very sorry to see you in such anguish.

GH31