Wife wants best of both worlds

[Cie la vie]

DW,

I feel your pain to a degree but not fully as I am not there yet but in time I believe I will be.

I hear you about the dark/dim aspect. Since my W moved out I have seen her only at mediation sessions (it's be one month). We have exchanged one phone call and 4 texted messages all revolving around the children. All initiated by her save for the one call which I regret placing, even though it was mostly necessary.

I too feel better with NC but as you know total NC is not possible with children.

The topic of intro's with OP was brought up again today in our mediation session. The mediator asked if we wanted any language install in our settlement agreement on this front. My response was it isn't enforceable. My wife commented that we would should honor it in good faith (or something to that effect). I refrained from saying "you mean the same way you honored our marriage vows".

I humored her and agreed that we had to be in a serious relationship with another for a year before intro to the children. I laughed knowing this clause contained no teeth whatsoever.

Anyway, keep detaching it's best thing we can do to protect ourselves emotionally because our W's aren't going to cut us any slack in that department.