Running out of time.

[Cie la vie]

DW,

Sorry to hear that. Broken ribs are no fun at all.

Well, I just returned to the office from mediation session #4 and it was interesting. The primary topic of conversation was division of community property. This proved to be a little tense.

The tense issue revolved around the 401K my W cashed out in early Oct. The post tax value was 34K which my W blew through in 90 days. I couldn't help myself and I showed my disgust with this and I questioned her on how that was possible. She tried to explain it away with ridiculous claims about attorney fees, car payment etc. none of which comes even remotely close to explaining how she could spend over $11,000.00/month.

The bottom line is I felt I deserved 50% of the pre-tax value not the post taxed value. The argument on her side was she needed the money to pay her expenses. My argument was she didn't and I also argued we continued to pay full nanny fees $3,000.00/month for five months while she was and stil is unemployed.

This is essentially our mortgage each month going to something that wasn't necessary if she truyly wanted to be a real mother to our children. Instead she spent the majority of this time exercising, shopping and from what I could tell texting and talking to one of any number of OM's she has been working. In including the original A OM.

Anyway, after all that I relented and agreed to except a split of the post tax amount. However, I will change position on this should she seek any child support of spousal support which she is clearly not entitled to. That comes up Wed. in our next mediation session.

One thing that is absolutely clear to me is she has totalled divested herself from me emotionally and is not looking back in the slightest. However, she is neither nasty or mean to me she is simply indifferent to me and my feelings. In fact this has been her demeanor from the day she pulled the pin in Oct.

I find this to be harsh, disturbing and baffling all at the same time. I get the feeling that in her own mind she may feel our relationship from the beginning was a mistake and maybe she never truly loved me. This could be me thinking to much but I just can't wrap my head around her total lack of feeling for me.

I wonder is this consistent with someone in a MLC or is this pure WAW take good care wish you the best behavior?