flowmom | shifting from devastated to rebuilding

[flowmom]

RNM, thanks for your thoughts on the possible snooping. H should be wondering to himself because even I don't really know what choices I will make in the next couple of months. I have a loyal heart, but once I close the door it will not open again. And I've been basically lonely and mostly celibate for 5 years...

And this is really really corny, but I even thought of Jon&Kate+8 where the kids stay at the house and the parents take turns visiting them!

That's called "nesting" and H has already refused.

The reason why I thought of that is that I wonder what the longitudinal research finding on the effects of 50% custody for kids will show--kids shuffling back and forth between 2 households...

I agree that's a concern. Basically the parents who have screwed up are the ones who get homes, but the innocent children who need a stable home the most get cheated out of that .

go with the flow for now. Wait- is that why you are FLOW mom? (lol)

That and I'm a fan of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi.