OK. read these but while I understand the point, I am confused as to the best course of action in terms of who to tell & timing. To date, W has been confronted, confirmed identity of OM & I have met him. (apparantly his wife also picked up on cell records & confronted him - he maintains he is "working on marriage" & what happens is up to W. Made her tell FIL / BIL. I Have told my S who also confronted W (S thinks defineitly MLC / Self esteem issues). A number of friends know & some have worked out who OM is. However, W is not being consistent with story & there are some who do not realise there is an A. Most have kids who are at school in same classes as boys. How to expose to gain maximum impact with W / OM but minimise impact on kids?
