Doing hard time on the MLC chain gang.

[MHL]

At the lunch we talked more about the possibility of reconciliation and what it might look like. She volunteered that she often thinks of coming back and how easy it would be but that she would be living a lie. I told her that I don't think she should move back for that reason. I told her that if she decided she wanted to work on us that I would rather her stay where she is and that we start to do things together for a while, like dates. I also said we could "work on it" with no expectations, I told her that I could come to the end of a period of time and decide that I do not want the M anymore.

For the first time she did most of the talking and I just mirrored back what she was saying. Amazingly she talked about what she is working on with her IC. My W said she is still very much a little girl who needs to put her "big girl panties on" and start acting like a 42 year old woman. I did not mirror back on this comment b/c I really didn't know what she might say next. I said I have been a child too and feel like I have grown up a lot in the last 3-4 months. I also told her that I thought b/c of our past childhoods we never really knew how to "relate" to each other in the past. She agreed.