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[Quart9]

I'm sorry to hear about your heart problems man. I'm sure that makes this even more tough for you. It is good that she showed interest though - and she should. And don't be so upset about the "civil" interactions you guys have had. Civil might keep you from having a heart attack.

I'm sorry if I gave you the impression that you should not confront her about OM - I think you definitely have right to know what is going on. My main concern is that you could get yourself in a hell of a mess if you confronted them while they were together or tracked OM down and confronted him.

I have read some about exposure too and I am contemplating it in my own sitch. Contacting her HR may be a good way to get her attention but like koliver said - it could get her fired. If you guys didn't have any kids I'd say go for it, but she has got to be able to help support your son too. It does not sound like you have a good relationship with your W's family and they may not even care if she is seeing someone else. It seems your best bet would be contacting the OMW. That will be up to you to decide though - pros and cons.

She thinks you bugged her Jeep - really!? I found out about my wife's EA with OM after checking her cell phone records. Initially she didn't want admit to it. I just recently found about their PA and she lied to me about that several times until I finally got her to breakdown and admit to it. It gives you some closure once you confirm it but it opens a whole new can of worms too.

I envy you for being able to forgive her and if you need to detach from her then do that as it may free you to really improve yourself.