How about you try it out what you've been learning about communicating with her, here first.. type something up..
we'll (or at least me- I won't speak for Coach or others) take a whack at it.
"Making assumptions can lead to a lot of misunderstandings and a lot of difficulties. I'm sorry about doing that at times. Don't make the assumption that you know what I think. You can talk to whoever you want. And I'll do my best to not make assumptions about you. I understand why you'd be upset since so many assumptions have been made along the way."
Well?
I'd like to also mention again to her that I care for her and my family deeply but I don't know what to say (or even if I should)!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.