how do i keep my hope alive?

[talia]

OTM,
You conveniently quote only the things that make your point - and you usually miss the point entirely. This may be harsh but its time....

Look at TTA's dates - BOMB 1/6/10 - explain to me how in the world you think that quote applies this early on. TTA's H has not done ANYTHING that would even remotely fit into the description of "ABSOLUTELY SURE". That quote applies after some CLEAR indication he wants to work on things, like say, asking her to move back in with him. You need to stop mind reading for her H. YOU have no idea what he is thinking, SHE has no idea what he is thinking, HECK I bet HE has no idea what he is thinking yet. TIME is the key and there has not been enough time, LET ALONE BEHAVIORS to indicate he's moving toward her - NONE. It COULD all be chalked up to selfish desires to have someone comfortable meet his emotional needs. It may not lead him home at ALL. You cannot assume that is what it means and neither can TTA. NO EXPECTATIONS.

NOW IS NOT TIME TO TEST THE WATERS. What you "think" about what the author is saying is irrelevant. TTA is not in piecing mode yet... she's in LRT/GAL. You need to think about whether the advice you are giving is meant for the recipient or whether it is meant to appease your own feelings about your own situation. You have posted some very insightful things - I've been impressed - but sometimes you miss the boat entirely.

Please read the book 10 or 12 more times and then you may be better situated to comment. In this process you CANNOT skip the hard parts in the middle and just move on to the end of the book. TTA IS DOING AMAZING and because of that - she is getting RESULTS. Changing that now - this early on - could ruin it all.

TTA - SORRY FOR THE HIJACK - I don't mean to be a total wench on your thread. Keep it up girl - you are on track!! Don't backslide now that you are seeing the early signs of progress. Remember - when making a fire... after you get the first spark you need to give it oxygen... but if you blow too hard you might blow it out... then you have to start all over. Blow gently at this point....

T