• Jan 2010 – Relationship still improves, better communication, physical contact, intimacy, cuddles etc. seems conflicted but determined to leave.
• Feb, 2010 – W only asks for a limited sum of money to set up the rental. Split bank accounts etc & agree money for funding kids activities. She is asking for much less than she could be. Start trying to “detach with love”. State that I am wiling to try with M but cannot share her with OM. Will help to try to help her sort herself out for the sake of the children even if we are no longer together. Getting closer & closer during last few weeks. Hugs, talking etc etc
• Feb 22, 2010 - W moved out and rented 3 BR house less than 1 mile away. I stay in family home


Ok.

1st. Stop all physical contact. Get yourself tested for STD's. Do not cuddle.
2nd. what boundaries have you put in place on this relationship with the OM. Who have you exposed the affair to? What are you doing to bust the affair?
3rd. She left to continue the affair. It is physical.

4th.

Stop being all lovey dovey. Your wife is sleeping with another man. Be civil and deploy tough love.

No money. No help. She is on her own. Since you say you have read up on all this. Please list out your plan on how to bust this affair

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