yes - THIS IS THE HARDEST ONE OF ALL the ow around your kids....I am so sorry to say that when my thoughts are less than pure I think how would my XH like it if I had a Step Father for my son.....I could have done that but couldnt bare that for my kids, besides what I believe about marriage and divorce! Nothin is ever the same in the second family and so unfair for the kids......i shutter to think my son is there when they go off to bed at night. it just gets no better than this and DIVORCE IS HELL and REMARRIAGE IS HELL TIMES TWO FOR THE KIDS...ITS A MESS....all of this as a lovely example as my son is starting to date at 17 almost 18.....what a great example he now has as he goes into relationships....
