I knew it was coming, but this is a tough one for me. I decided to start going out one night a week and H has put the kids to bed and looked after the kids in the family home twice now. Today I told him that I'm going out on Friday night...he wants them to stay overnight at his apartment, a place that I've never even seen. I was thrown for a loop and I just actual casual and said that is fine. I've never spent a night apart from my little ones. I know this is an inevitable step, but I'm crying just thinking about it. Not being the ever-present mama is a 180 for me, so it's probably good medicine. I also know that getting the children to stay overnight is a divorce agenda for H because he want to establish a precedent for custody.
A few months ago, having a night to myself would have been cause for gleeful celebration. Now I feel sad that I will likely be spending part of it grieving a new separation milestone.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
I knew it was coming, but this is a tough one for me. I decided to start going out one night a week and H has put the kids to bed and looked after the kids in the family home twice now. Today I told him that I'm going out on Friday night...he wants them to stay overnight at his apartment, a place that I've never even seen. I was thrown for a loop and I just actual casual and said that is fine. I've never spent a night apart from my little ones. I know this is an inevitable step, but I'm crying just thinking about it. Not being the ever-present mama is a 180 for me, so it's probably good medicine. I also know that getting the children to stay overnight is a divorce agenda for H because he want to establish a precedent for custody.
