Eric,

When you see these things.....How does this affect YOU as a person?

Not in your marriage so much, just you.

Are you able to see how YOU got lost in the relationship ?

Things that you coulda/shoulda/woulda done for you that got lost ?

These issues that we have inside of us, are not so different than the issues our whacked out MLCers have.

These are things that we should have dealt with all those years ago as well...

What most will tell you here is that this time .....this time that you have now, is the time to deal with YOUR demons....

To grow , and learn, and mature into the person that Eric likes when he catches a reflection of his soul in the mirror.

This issues that you are recognizing, and as painful as it is....is almost exactly what our spouses are dealing with....

The difference is.......




YOU get to do it without all of the confusion, lying, guilt, and tearing apart of the family that they have.....


Which side would ANY of you want to be on ?



You are doing really well my friend.....