How (and who) to expose if OP is not married

[Allen A]

I realize that since I moved out on Sunday, husband and I have been talking too much and it hasn't been in regards to our son. I will change this TODAY. I was thinking about telling him but I think I will just make the point by doing it. Its not that hard for me as I really don't have a desire to contact him but it seems like I started it off ALL wrong after the move by needing a HUGE favor from husband regarding my job. Once I opened that door he seems to want to talk about how depressed he is and how stressed he is. At the same time he called to tell me how excited he was about the possibility of a new job. Then I called him excited about an opportunity that came to me in regards to my business. I guess I need to get used to sharing my news with someone else.

I am still debating going to my MIL 50th bday celebration. Should I go? Of course husband will be there and he sent me the evite. He is driving down on Saturday to be there so not sure what I should do. I was thinking of going but not staying the entire time and keeping my distance from husband but having fun with his family.

This is interesting actually... The big question is he going to OW for support too? This cake eating is a good sign and a bad one... On the one hand, he's turning to you for supoprt, pursuing your contact, but on the other, he's still with OW... so he's cake eating... It would be intreting to find out how the OW feels about him turning to you for support like this... I can't imagine she would be plesed about it. Just not sure how to play that one...

I am very close with his entire family and MIL has been there for me during the entire past year when her son was not treating me right.

I would keep as close as You can to his family if youw ant to keep fighting the affair, but stay as far as you can from H... have a family member let him know you dont' want anywhere near him while he's in contact with OW... its GREAT to have your WS's family on your side when they are cheating, that's a tough line for them to walk and I LOVE seeing people take the mature road and out their own child as being out of line.. its a great thing to see..