Is this piecing?

[flowmom]

You're right Freckle - I don't have to make a decision. I just have to keep on the path I'm on - which is one of self respect. Going to keep up the not taking bait theme - and the walking away with or without S when he gets abusive. And, I'm going to go a bit dark like I said because I want to pull back and really let him have his freedom to think this through, look at himself instead of blaming me, and realize he must treat me better.

I think this frame of mind is going to work for you...hugs.