flowmom | shifting from devastated to rebuilding

[newmama]

And this is my issue, I know, but I find it almost disturbing (in the best possible way if that makes sense) to read so many horrible situations and *really* understand how much you (general you, not you per say) want to change something but chances are it just won't happen as you want or hope.

But MWD says we must hold on to hope if we want to save our marriage. And we are supposed to be setting goals, putting strategies in place and observing results to see if the WAS responds in any way.... SO I get so confused when people on here tell us to not think about the WAS or care about them!