Despite what Quart9 as told me to do I decided to confront my W last night about the OM. I have been thinking hard about what her and her best friend have been telling me. They seamed to intent on making sure I left him alone. When I asked her she denied, then she asked me if I had bugged her. I did not but just by asking that question I knew she was lying about everything. She said it was odd that I bring this up, because earlier in the day she and her friend were having the same conversation about OM. I stood my ground. I did not bug your Jeep. I just kept telling her you have nothing to loose by telling me. But she is standing firm.
After a couple of hours she texted me to say how I was going to be arrested for bugging her Jeep and she and her friend had made up the whole story to try and catch me. I said not only will I pay to have it searched but I’ll stand right there and watch them do it. I called her to discuss her, amazing how she backed down. She had to ask me if she need to get an atty. I told her not yet. I don’t think I’m going use this against her. I just need to know.
I feel so much better today. I don’t have hard proof, but I have enough. I still love her. If I can get over all the other stuff than I get over this too. I will forgive her. Not today but someday. I can now detach. The ball is in her court.
I’m thinking about calling the OMW. I know they are getting a divorce and they are living apart. But she could help me get some hard proof. I get the impression my W is running scared. She is afraid of who I will tell. I have read in other posts the more exposure the quicker it will fall apart. She has a state job with strict rule against this behavior, I was thinking of contacting HR and let them know too.
