By the way, I don't think you should help your H find a shrink. You will be able to tell if he is really committed to wanting to improve/change if he does this himself.

As for visiting the MIL, I am not NC with my WH but have attended his family functions and have been glad that I did- they are happy to see me and our S and support me in all of this.

So although it might feel contradictory to be NC with him and go, you can always resume NC after. And who says you have to talk to him? (lol)

But I totally relate to it being so hard to not share news with him! My WH was my best friend, the first person I thought of to share everything with! As I know is the situation for all of us here, but still it is hard to stop doing that.


me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004