This is the email I'm thinking about sending my H today. Would love to get advice on this.

Would you be willing to switch your night with the kids tomorrow night? I would like to spend my bday with just the kids. You can either have them tonight, or just count Saturday as the trade.

Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10