This is the email I'm thinking about sending my H today. Would love to get advice on this.
Would you be willing to switch your night with the kids tomorrow night? I would like to spend my bday with just the kids. You can either have them tonight, or just count Saturday as the trade.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
Sent email, with no reply yet. However, H did try to call me about 10 min after I sent it and I didn't answer his call. He didn't leave a message, so I see no reason to return his call.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
Sent email, with no reply yet. However, H did try to call me about 10 min after I sent it and I didn't answer his call. He didn't leave a message, so I see no reason to return his call.
Exactly. Deep breath, mb. NC does get easier.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
He called back and I answered this time. He was fine with trading kids for Saturday. And that was it end of convo. For some reason I was hoping he would say he wanted to see me on my bday, wishful thinking )-:
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
MB, don't set yourself up to get hurt. There is an old saying 'blessed are those who expect nothing, for they shall not be disappointed'. If you expect the worst, the reality can only be a pleasant surprise. Can you plan something fun for yourself & kids?
Next Fri is our 5th anniversary. I'm moving that week, but def. NC that day. I fully plan on doing something nice for myself, b/c I would bet $1,000,000 that H will not acknowledge it in any way. Fully expect H to spend day w/OW.
That was how I handled X Mas, NYE, VD. And truthfully, none of those days were too terrible. Cried a little, laughed a little bit and I'm still alive!!!
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
RuinedNoMore, Your right, I would feel better if I expected the worst. I do have a feeling H will at least text me tomorrow to say "Happy bday" I don't know if I should respond with a "thanks" or not respond at all.
I am taking the kids and going to my sisters for cake and ice-cream, so it will be fun.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
RuinedNoMore, Your right, I would feel better if I expected the worst. I do have a feeling H will at least text me tomorrow to say "Happy bday" I don't know if I should respond with a "thanks" or not respond at all.
I am taking the kids and going to my sisters for cake and ice-cream, so it will be fun.
I'm glad you have something nice and fun to do! If H does text you, no harm in saying thanks, hours later. Or the next day.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
I was at my MIL's picking up my kids, and H called her to see if I was there. He wanted me to wait for him to get home, he needed a check from me. I ripped out a check gave it to my MIL, and got out of there before he got there. When he got to his's mom's and seen that I wasn't there, he came over to the house. When he got here I asked what he was doing here, he said I need that check. I said I gave it to your mom. Then I walked away. An hour later he called, and I didn't answer. Then he called the house phone, and my D answered so I talked to him for a sec, and it was just to tell me that he didn't have to use that check. He wanted to know if I wanted him to bring it back. I said no, just hang on to it. I didn't want him to come back over.
Tomorrow is my bday, and I plan on NC at all. I made it clear to his mom that I wanted nothing to do with him on my bday. However, she is so afraid of hurting his feelings she will not say anything to him.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
