Gno, you are absolutely correct. I had been focused on the A's from the very beginning. I will not beat myself up b/c I wasn't doing anything wrong- but my actions have helped expedite her flight- and that's OK too.
There is no telling if and when some type of crash will occur. I am 32 yo and W is 33 and OM is 41. I want no part in that type of night life/ bar scene.