Found out last night that H has been spending time with OW. I went a little crazy not to him, but to myself. I asked him to confirm and said that I don't know how to work with him as long as this is going on. I have exposed the A to everyone and now she's (OW) upset and so he's taking it out on me, but they are just friends. D12 contacted her (OW) last night. I have her number in my phone and also found her on FB. He is threatened to take them from me because of this. I am taking my d's stuff away, and offering her a journal. Is it okay for her to confront either of them? She felt so good about what she'd done, which is not okay, but I think she needed to get it out. He is going to lay into her when he sees her and I'm worried. He also said, he doesn't care what a piece of paper says, I am not his W. I am sick and can't handle the kids. Because of all the stress and them acting out, it's somehow all my fault because I have them all the time. Does that make sense to any of you. After the "I would never intentionally hurt you email" this came a day later. He hates me, or he thinks he does. I told him while he was going on and on, that telling me I look great, or sending me emails to make himself feel better was not acceptable. Today he will be calm and rational, but I can't handle the verbal abuse any longer. Getting an A today!
Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.
