W officially in R w/ OM-

[Gnosis]

Gnosis.. i really dont' belive anyone should be telling someone when their marriage is over no...

You are correct. That was not my intention. I meant for Maynard to move on with his life by working on himself, rebuilding his self-esteem, GAL and 180's instead of spending his days obsessing over every minor detail and interaction with his WAW.

I belive a person CAN protect oneself ANd fight an affair at the same time... I don't believe they have to be ounterprodutve to one another...

I believe the same.

Now for my 180 on the above and why he should move forward:

This woman has intentionally gone out and exposed his darkest secrets. She is filled with contempt and indecency. She has left him broke and has taken money from his parents -- money that deprives them of a comfortable life in their golden years. She has taken out an RO against him. She allowed OM1 to threaten him.

To top that off, the minute Maynard busted the affair with OM1 she already had OM2 lined up. From my understanding she has a history of some kind of addiction herself... OM2 is a drug user and living the high life. She is diving back into this lifestyle and will crash. No one can say when she will snap out of it. I don't wish ill on his WAW and hope she snaps out of it.

The best thing for Maynard to do is detach and look after himself. This way his state of mind will be free from his co-dependency and other issues that cloud it when she crashes. When that happens he will be able to make rational decisions to help her and take her back if he still wants her.