For Sandi2

[cesco]

Well,
I cannot tell you how similar our stories are.
My W is a fog as well. The Friday before Valentines Day, I told her that I needed better and I wasnt the one who wanted this and that if she needed to leave that its best that she does.
She thought it was the right choice. She started looking for places etc. Then, the Thursday following she tells me she cant find anything reasonably priced and she doesnt want to leave.
Our R, like yours, never really fought, or argued etc. Like you I thought she was kinda cool with stuff untill she told me all this. I still Love her dearly.
In saying that, I am having a tough time kicking her out and some of the advice on here has been to be patient, GAL, detach and NC. It will take some time but the fog will clear.
Like you though, how much can someone take untill enough is enough.
In my R, I have not been able to confirm if there was an affair or not. I am pretty confident of an EA but thats about it..

Hang in their for your childs sake. I doesnt sound like deep inside you want this and you can still win her over if "YOU" want..