She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[flowmom]

Awoken, I'm so sorry to read of your friend taking his life, and of the circumstances. I agree that suicide is borne of hopelessness and desperation. It is so sad that in our society we do such a poor job of nursing our "walking wounded"...those who are in such distress.

I can understand your concerns about your W. I really hope that you can go to an al-anon meeting soon. Your W's addiction drama is triggering these D thoughts, and I think that it could help you to detangle some of the threads so that you can feel clear before making any decisions.