She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Gardener]

I admit, 1 month for each year of marriage now sounds daunting. That would be 32 months, and I would have a little over two years ago. When I started here, I would've said that I would wait forever, but now something has changed. Part of it is that I feel like, in many ways, I've been waiting on my W for much of the past 17 years.

I wasn't recommending it. Besides, if I recall it's presented in the book almost anecdotaly. As one of the things that they (busted Ds) seem to have in common.
Wow. 32 years. I'd forgotten that. Anyway, that makes my point better than I did. 32 months sounds extreme. But perhaps 4 months is extreme on the other end of the scale.

I do understand the 17-year-feeling you have, though.

On the other hand, early on both Puppy and Sandi recommended that I file for D first. I've been hoping they might show up again to comment.

puppy and/or Sandi advice trump Gardener advice, that's for sure.