She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

Thank you Flowmom for the bumps. Maybe few others are commenting because there is no good answer for my question, or maybe the advice I've gotten already covers it.

Gardener: I need to pull the DR book back out and re-read it again. When I started to suspect W of going through my things, I started keeping my copy away from the home.

I admit, 1 month for each year of marriage now sounds daunting. That would be 32 months, and I would have a little over two years ago. When I started here, I would've said that I would wait forever, but now something has changed. Part of it is that I feel like, in many ways, I've been waiting on my W for much of the past 17 years.

A good friend said something to me in a text message that has me thinking more. He said that pushing the divorce doesn't mean that I'm done. I'm of course worried that it is not going to serve my DB efforts. I'm not pursuing, and I've gained some serious detachment at this point. But I believe in marriage, and I don't want to quit too soon. On the other hand, early on both Puppy and Sandi recommended that I file for D first. I've been hoping they might show up again to comment.

Right now, I think you are right, if I'm unsure then don't push it. For all I know, the D might be moving along anyway. I have to watch over my kids ( and W) pretty closely.