Four months is not a long time (I know - it's an eternity. We've all felt that.).
Here's Gypsy's oft-repeated approach:
If it feels right, do it If it feels wrong, don't If you're waffling or unsure, don't
You're asking the question/listing the options
Originally Posted By: Awoken
This feels like a crossroad decision: push the divorce or try to wait it out.
Until and unless you wake up one morning and every fiber of your being is screaming,"push the divorce!," I say don't. Isn't Michelle's guideline one month of DBing for every year of marriage as the average timeframe in successful busters?
Originally Posted By: Sister
Originally Posted By: Awoken
have to consider the continued risk of her drinking and being of meds, but so far it does not appear to be getting worse, and maybe it's improved a little.
Don't kid yourself here - until she gets some REAL help, the problem is still there. It just hasn't reared it's ugly head lately. It doesn't matter that it "does not appear to be getting worse" - it's bad enough as it is. Of course, she's the only one that can help herself. Just keep in mind the effect on your kids.
However, this is a big Sword of Damocles hanging over your sitch.
Hang in there. No part of our sitches is ever easy.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
