So then why think about the last resort? I'm in his shoes somewhat, and my W deciding to let go and move on meant I no longer knew if I was important enough to her. That meant me moving on was easier.

Now, she is much closer, despite her huge fears of being cut loose. For me, I'm trying to find out if I can make love where it has never been.

Your husband has different issues, but knowing that you are inviting him in isn't the same as just knowing the door is open for now. Even in LRT, doesn't Pearl's posted quote mention that it could take months?